Award Winning Psychiatrist Dr. Jose Gomez Helps Couples Enjoy Happier and More Successful Marriages
Bringing hope to married couples in difficult relationships is the mission of Dr. Jose Gomez as he spreads his message of reconciliation across the country and around the world.
Jose Gomez, M.D., founder of Marriage Academy, Inc., is a highly successful Psychiatrist, Diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, former professor of Psychiatry and former Director of a medical school at The Technological Institute in the Dominican Republic. He has been nominated for the last four consecutive years as one of the top psychiatrists in North America and is a distinguished Fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine in England.
His extensive work of helping couples to live fulfilling marriages began over forty years ago when he was appointed Medical Director at a community mental health center in Louisville, Kentucky. Since that time, he has been working with couples in distress which has culminated in developing his own coaching system called “The Drivers,” used to teach couples how to learn to meet each other’s needs in their marital relationships. A licensed physician and a Board Certified Psychiatrist, Dr. Gomez is a Founding Fellow of the Institute of Coaching Professional Association at the Harvard University Medical School, as well as a member of the Harvard Business Review Advisory Council.
After speaking with Dr. Gomez, one quickly realizes the genuine compassion he has for individuals that are suffering and unhappy in their lives. He is obviously a man focused on service rather than one being driven by the craving for wealth and fame. His service oriented psychiatric practice has been influential in helping literally thousands of lives. He states, “My real mission and commitment is to help people and let them know there is hope. I have a lot of answers as a result of my forty-two years of experience. I could continue in private practice, but I want to expand my influence and help transform more lives and bring more hope to families that are really suffering. I have seen so much suffering for so many years. I know I have a lot of answers that I would like to offer to a larger population. That’s why I have chosen to take worldwide my books, CDs, DVDs, online courses and my seminars across the country and provide other resources on my website that can reach people around the world.”
The Marriage Academy is designed to help couples develop an outstanding, supporting and loving relationship, so they can enjoy their marriage to the fullest extent possible. The method Dr. Gomez uses in all his programs is coaching, which is radically different than couples therapy. His coaching is focused on wellness and on using the present to change the future, while the focus of traditional couple’s therapy is on illness and engaging the past to change the present.
The Marriage Academy offers an on line and highly effective course that will transform the lives of many couples experiencing marital difficulties. Through the course, Dr. Gomez brings together his over forty years of experience in dealing with high risk marital situations to help couples identify and overcome the difficulties plaguing their marriage. Along with the online course, Dr. Gomez also offers, free of charge for those enrolled in the online course, a live workshop where a few hundred people will go through a life changing event that promises to change their marriage. He also offers numerous books, CDs, DVDs, free webinars, conference calls and many other free bonuses. Individual consultations with Dr. Gomez are also available, in person or via Skype or telephone.
Over the course of his long-term psychiatric practice, Dr. Gomez has identified specific traits, that he calls “Drivers,” present within all individuals and impacting the relationship of married couples. He offers this brief description, “The Drivers are the needs and wants that we all have at a subconscious level. However, most people are not aware of their needs and wants. There has been a long tradition for many years, where many great names in psychology have talked about various drivers, but I have found in relationships there are four main drivers. While we all have parts of all four of these drivers, people usually have one or two that dominates their personality. When I do my initial analysis with couples, I am able to determine the main drivers influencing their relationship.”
He continues, “The first driver is what I term, ‘Gregarious.’ This is a person that needs connection and bonding. They have a need to bond and are accepted by other people, to be liked and be part of things. Inside a marriage relationship, the gregarious individual is someone that will constantly be doing things in the marriage to gain the acceptance and bonding from their spouse. They have an ongoing need to feel a connection, acceptance, and belonging. They want to be liked and connected.
The second driver is called ‘Unique.’ This is a person that wants to be recognized and to feel important and significant to the other person.
The third driver is the ‘Diversifier.’ This is a person that thrives on excitement and is always looking for change, fun and entertainment. They don’t like routine; therefore they don’t like doing the same things over and over. They live life at a constant fast pace. If they are married to someone that doesn’t like change, or is very slow, or likes routine, or doesn’t like to try new things, then there will be problems. The Diversifier is very emotional.
The fourth driver is referred to as ‘Cautious.’ This is the total opposite of the Diversifier. They think things through, rather than depending on emotion. They have a need for safety and security mostly. They operate in their comfort zone and don’t want to venture into areas where they don’t know the outcome or consequences. They need to feel that their spouse is providing them with safety and they need financial security.”
As a speaker, Dr. Gomez has conducted a large number of keynote speeches, workshops and seminars and has made many presentations to schools, churches and charitable organizations on topics such as Success Principles, The Drivers and Your Marriage, Time Management, Stress Management, How to Deal with Depression, Anger Management, Mental Peace and Happiness, and Transforming Your Life through Loving and Selfless Service. He has also spoken multiple times on the five most basic human values of truth, right action, peace, love and non-violence. Additionally, Dr. Gomez has dedicated a large part of his time for over 20 years to provide free charitable medical services as a physician in a rural hospital in India.
Currently Dr. Gomez is in the process of transitioning from private practice to taking his message to the masses through seminars he will conduct throughout the United States and eventually internationally. All of his material and presentations are offered in English today. However, realizing there is a great need among Hispanics, over the course of the next three years all the courses will also be available in Spanish. Dr. Gomez will then be taking his course and seminars to other Spanish speaking countries as well as to the Spanish speaking people of the United States.
The primary message Dr. Gomez relates to his clients is, “There is hope.” He explains, “Many people feel hopeless and are living lives of misery. They need to know their lives can be turned around. People can be helped. People deserve to be happy as a couple. If they understand the drivers operating in their relationship, and use them to their advantage, any marriage can be turned around. Through my program, a new beginning can happen in thirty days. If they put my plan into practice and do the daily exercises, they will see a big change in thirty days. Hope is the main message I proclaim. People don’t have to live in misery and their marriages don’t have to necessarily end in a divorce. There is something that can be done about it using the Drivers System I have developed. After working with over ten-thousand people in my professional practice, I can say with great confidence that I can help individuals in troubled relationships discover real and lasting happiness.”
Dr. Gomez has been personally trained by the world renowned speaker and author Jack Canfield, co-creator of the series of best-selling books “Chicken Soup for the Soul” and author of the best-selling book “The Success Principles”. He has also attended the prestigious Bill Gove Speech Workshop which has been training outstanding speakers since 1947. Their Speech Workshop graduate list includes seven Past Presidents of the National Speakers Association and twenty-three Members of the Speakers Hall of Fame. Dr. Gomez has also trained as a life couch with Cloe Madanes, a well-known family coach and author of several books on family dynamics.
Dr. Gomez is the author of The Drivers – Turn Your Marriage Around in 30 Days, which will be released in the summer of 2013. He is also revising an online 30 day course with the same title and is the author of Marriage Tips, which is currently available as a downloadable e-book on Amazon. Additionally, he is a contributing author, along with Brian Tracy, to the book, The Ultimate Success Guide, as well as being a contributing author to a second book, Think and Grow Rich Today, inspired by Napoleon Hill’s classic book. Both books are to be released later this year.
As a dynamic motivational speaker, Dr. Gomez has spoken to various groups and organizations throughout the United States and abroad including India and the Caribbean. He has also been featured as one of America’s PremierExperts® on the Consumers Advocate television program that will air on NBC, CBS, ABC, and Fox affiliates throughout the country. Because of his contribution to his industry and his outstanding marital coaching success, Dr. Gomez is being featured as one of today’s Business Champions in Newsweek magazine. Additional information about Dr. Gomez and The Marriage Academy can be found at www.marriageacademy.us.